Dear Goddess Lorena:
i hope this finds You doing well. You are never far from my minds eye, as a matter of fact, You control it!
i have read the advice boards. The discussions were quite interesting and informative. A common theme seems to permeate through all of these items, that is, the essence of submission. As it turns out, too often there exists a dichotomy between how a male defines submission as opposed to a Goddess's belief/vision. The challenge is in reconciling these differences; certainly the submissive must shoulder the burden for changing his concept of submission. Being a submissive is a process, a metamorphosis if You will. Being submissive, truely submissive, is a state of mind; through unconditional surrender/submission does the submissive find enlightenment. Letting go and making this sacrifice takes time and trust as well as patience. For most men, this is difficult, almost an oxymoron. men generally learn too early on re instant gratification. men are trained too early on to control and to satisfy their own needs first. Therefore it is understandably difficult for a submissive to find that real submissive state; but it can be done with the proper training, a proper open mind and willingness to change. Understandably a Goddess and Mistress finds submissives frustrating - how often do They hear "i am submissive. . ", but the Goddess/Mistress has to compete with the "power struggle" that a submissive subconsciously exhibits.
Throughout the advice board i had the feeling that submissives are searching for the way to become truely submissive, that is, what does it really take? we (submissives) need to learn to listen, open our minds and hearts, the answers are there. To me, in order to reach that submissive state of mind, we (submissives) need to learn to serve unconditionally - learn to place Your needs before our own. Then by unconditional sacrifice can we as submissives find all of our own desires and needs satisfied beyond our imagination.
One of the questions in paticular intrigued me: "How should i serve and worship a Goddess?" Goddess Lorena's advice was impecible. She responds, "....to worship a Goddess, one must respect Her because that is what worship is about." If we (submissives) respect a Goddess, then it naturally flows that Her needs will always come first and foremost; that is the way it should be. And Lady Kyla's advice: "...live only to serve your Mistress/Goddess." By focusing on that which brings us the most pleasure, ie serving our Goddess, can we grow and further enlighten ourselves.
Goddess Lorena, i could go on and on about trying to find the spiritual essence of submission, for i think that is what we (submissives) ultimately seek. i submit this to You humbly, hoping it finds favor in Your eyes.
trainee slave ken n.
Dear Goddess Lorena,
First let me thank You for the high mark on my first training assignment. i am glad it pleases You. i also saw that You updated Goddess Club and i would like to thank You for giving me the privilege of being listed in Your stable of slaves and for Your kind word of praise. It means a lot to me and i will continue to try to do my best.
i have read the Advice Index and Advice to men boards. There is a lot of information to digest and a lot of interesting comments for every question. What i found interesting is how many of the questions and problems brought up were caused because a slave forgot or didn't know the most important aspect of being a slave. They were thinking of their own needs before the needs of their Goddess. Many of the questions asked by male contained phrases like "i want", and "i need", instead of asking what She wants or needs. i see how easily we males stop thinking with our heads and let our penis take over. we too easily think of fulfilling our own fetishes instead of making our Goddess happy. That seems to be the point at which many relationships between a Goddess and Her slave begin to deteriorate. If we males can remember to keep our priorities in the right order there should be no problems. The phrase "topping from the bottom" came up a lot and in many cases the male wasn't even aware that that was what he was doing. The responses to the question "How can a slave get the fetishes he wants without being selfish?" (Advice #9) were pretty accurate. As i said earlier there is the phrase "he wants". If he is putting his needs before those of his Goddess then he is being selfish. worshipper tom s.'s response seems to be a good one. The needs of his Goddess should be all he concerns himself about. If his Goddess sees fit to treat or reward him a certain way then he must accept it regardless of his fetish. The issue of males having their priorities backward also comes up in the question about how he feels about his Goddess having other slaves (Advice #11). his only concern should be the well being and happiness of his Goddess. If more slaves make Her life easier he should be content and do his best to serve. As You point out in Your response, one slave would be hard pressed to carry out every duty to his Goddess's satisfaction and certain slaves have certain skills that others don't.
The other topic that i really related to was the one questioning the effectiveness of email training (Advice #19). As a new trainee i can fully appreciate the benefits of it. As You point out in Your response, it is better that a slave have some training before he meets a Goddess in person. i can really relate to this. i tend to be shy and even get nervous just typing emails. If You saw how many times i have to correct mistakes in my typing just from being a little nervous You would see i am a little jumpy. Though i would jump at the chance to meet You in person, right now i fear the moment i met You i would be little more than a trembling pile of jelly who could only mumble incoherently and i would have little idea of how to properly greet You and act in Your presence. i would only make a fool of myself and be a disappointment to my Goddess. But thanks to Your email training i can get to know You and learn how to behave in Your presence and it helps to know that as You come to understand me better i can be a little more relaxed and be more focused on my training. For that i am extremely grateful to You and i deeply thank You for the time and effort You have put into my training. That You work so hard to make me a better slave, motivates me to do my best. If there is any service You require of me, i will obey. May this night find You in good health and peace.
trainee slave adam r.